If social, human and self acceptance was a maze game, how long would it take in your life to navigate the maze? Life is self acceptance and when you make mistakes, it is about self forgiveness, so that you resume quiet and stability in self acceptance. Would you be like the foolish woman relying on a husband for that essential self acceptance because it is good to have a husband or a wife but you should not rely on them for acceptance. In all your getting, get understanding; Proverbs 4:7. In getting to the answer be careful how people who are anthropologically incompatible for family while friendship might be okay. The incompatibility may mean she will defeat herself when it comes to a standard average family life as it may be that her most immediate great female ancestor lived in a subterranean dwelling or cave just north of the city where they have a conservation area now and the dwelling was cemented or they built a shopping mall on top of it. So, why argue with her? After you do not fail her and the expectations of a reasonable family man, she will break up or she will follow any deceit involving an offer of more money. Commit to what is best for you if she is just a baby mother and a very nice friend also but if she is just capable of nothing other than raising children, that's okay. Identify and separate. You don't want the baby mother experience for your entire life. You want a household. Let her go. You can see she is off and is determined to recite her baby mother ancestry vehemently instead of celebrate family as if you are trying to assimilate her. She is just a nice girl but not a mother in a family. She will prove is wrong some day. Look; here is Ivan now with a ring. But, she seems to argue with the fact that Ivan as the right one as if she is fighting God's law. I have never been with anyone like that who prefers the family ethics of the yard vs. the more traditional family unit and then of you do, you feel like garbage in Brooklyn. Every Deacon could be your father but when one of them pulls your pants off who is, in fact, your father, then you don't feel covered. Then the pastor now has to be your spiritual cover to help you function. Click here.